Creating a loving relationship does not come naturally, it’s a learned skill. You can learn it. Has fighting or silence overtaken your love? Are you feeling lonely and sad? Not feeling understood and valued? If you want to save your relationship, make it better, or clarify whether to let go with understanding, effective couples therapy can help. A 40 year body of research, and interpersonal neurobiology, have clarified key skills that create lasting love. This forms the cornerstone of my approach.
This is growth focused couples therapy. We work together to establish safety and fairness in your relationship. I focus on teaching you how to: fight fairly, recover from half-truths, secrets, and lies, and restore trust after broken agreements. I’ll guide you to clarify what you want, become more responsive to each other’s needs, and co-create mutual solutions. Whether you’re in a straight or curly relationship, whether you’re masculine, feminine, or both, the potential for a healthy relationship is hard wired into you. Steeled for the worst, you may be surprised to discover the best.
It can be hard to reach out for help. When you do, you’ll find acceptance and down to earth listening. We can talk about how couples therapy can help you learn the skills to deepen, strengthen, or restore your love.